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In a blog and video earlier this year, I identified and illustrated four adverse factors that husbands of sexual abuse (SA) survivors potentially bring into their marriage. Adverse Factors are the perspectives and behaviors a husband brings into his marriage that mimic the events surrounding his wife’s sexual abuse and/or clash with the effects of his wife’s sexual abuse. Some…
Survivors of childhood sexual abuse were mentally, emotionally, and physically manipulated by their perpetrators. None of us look favorably at anyone’s manipulation of another person. But how can we know we are not manipulative? I’ve learned that I need to check my motive when I ask my wife questions or do something that involves her. While knowing our true motive…
“You make me complete.” This statement, or a variation thereof, is heard in personalized marriage vows, wedding receptions, music, and movies. The phrase appears to be socially accepted. But is it healthy? Many couples do complement each other in their relationship. One might be a planner, and the other spontaneous. Mutual respect and acceptance of their differences can open the…
Not all survivors talk about their childhood sexual abuse. But some do. Among those who do, some share the dark experiences and feelings of their trauma over and over. So as the husband of a survivor, what do you do when your wife shares her trauma with you? A husband’s mind can easily wander off to sports, work, and to-do…
Help, My Wife Is A Survivor of Sexual Abuse
New Perspectives and Patterns for Husbands
The author, writing as if he is chatting with you over coffee, answers each question in turn during the 10 corresponding chapters:
What is a normal marriage?
When do I get my wife back?
Should I stay or should I go?
Why doesn’t God heal my wife?
When will this be over?
Why can’t she just get over it?
What do I do with my anger towards her perpetrator?
Our sexual relationship is in trouble! What should I do?
Why is it so difficult to communicate with my wife?
Why does she seem to change at the flip of a switch?
What Others Are Saying
I love the opportunity that my husband has to attend the sessions. It not only helps him gain more knowledge on how to support me better, but it also gives him a chance to talk to other people and get support for himself—with people that truly understand what we are going through.
Marriage Reconstruction has truly changed our lives and shaped our marriage. I am so grateful for Bill’s work, passion, and dedication. We love each other more honestly and wholly because of the things we’ve learned about ourselves and each other through Marriage Reconstruction. Bill’s ministry has brought deeper healing, understanding, and communication to my husband and me. We are truly humbled by the powerful gift this ministry has been to us. Bill has been every definition of a shepherd, mentor, and friend to my husband.
Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist, Author, Teacher, Speaker Clinical Director, New Life Resources, Inc.
Dr. Bill and Pamela Ronzheimer offer a rare blend of clinical accuracy, personal experience, distinctly Christian perspective, and loving pastoral care as they address the complicated and painful topic of marriages impacted by childhood sexual abuse (CSA). Their understandings are derived from their own experiences, a lifetime of pastoring a church, Bill’s doctoral research, and their work with many couples healing from the consequences of CSA. . . . Difficult, complex, and often painful concepts are described and explored in a vulnerable and personable manner. They focus on increasing understanding, personal and relationship growth, and moving forward in truth and love.
Your ministry has been life changing for me and I still need to keep doing the work. Honestly, if it wasn’t for your support when I started this journey I don’t know where I would be. You’ve been a bright light that shined into my life and helped expose the darkness. I’m forever grateful that God has sent you into my life.