My previous blog introduced a 3-part video series on Adverse Factors. In the first video, we considered how husbands of sexual abuse survivors bring their own stuff (i.e., Adverse Factors) into their marriage. Adverse factors are the perspectives and behaviors a husband brings into his marriage that mimic the events surrounding his wife’s sexual abuse and/or clashes with the effects of her abuse.
But how can we identify the adverse factors we bring into our marriage?
The second and third videos of this 3-part series invite us to explore our own perspectives and behaviors so that we might identify our Adverse Factors. We’ll explore three domains to uncover these Adverse Factors. The second video focuses on the first domain, our family of origin.
The second video of the series walks us back into our family of origin, where many of our perspectives and behaviors were birthed.
Go back to your childhood home when you were in grade school, middle school, or high school. Imagine that a documentary crew came into your home.
One member of the documentary team recorded all the conversations and entered them into a transcript. Another crew member had video equipment and recorded everyday life in your home; dinner table conversations, facial expressions, how discipline occurred, everything.
As we explore the scripts and scenes from our childhood home, we discover that they often expose adverse factors that we potentially adopt in our lives and carry forward into our marriages. The more we know about our families of origin, the more we learn about ourselves.
As we explore the scripts and scenes from our childhood home, we discover that they often expose adverse factors that we potentially adopt in our lives and carry forward into our marriages.
Begin your exploration with the second video in the Adverse Factors 3-part series.